What Do the Groom's Parents Traditionally Pay For?

One of the most common questions that we get asked is what do the groom's parents traditionally pay for?

The groom's parents traditionally pay for a lot of different things.


What Does the Groom's Family Pay For?

Bride’s Rings

Wearing the beautiful ring that their groom surprised them with on their engagement day, every married couple remembers how it was gifted. The groom (or his family) is also responsible for buying the wedding ring for the bride, which she will be given as part of the ceremony. Even when a couple agrees on the ring together, the groom generally pays for it.


Marriage License

The wedding license cost varies from state to state. While it's not considered to be a major expense, occasionally it's the groom's family's responsibility to pay for those costs.


Rehearsal Dinner

If you're planning to stick with traditions, it's the parents of the groom's bride to organize and pay for your wedding dinner. The party's expenses may include food, drinks, and venue rental charges. Because the groom's family will be responsible for paying for the rehearsal dinner and the venue, they have control over how it's put together. The rehearsal dinner serves as an opportunity for parents of groomsmen and family members to celebrate the couple's wedding and socialize with the wedding party's friends and family ahead on the day of the wedding.


Officiant’s Fee or Cash Gift

Based on our data from the company that couples pay an average of $250 to hire an celebrant to officiate their wedding. If you choose to hire an officiant from a religious ceremony typically, they don't need fees. In fact, a religious officiant could ask for a donation or a wedding night stay to be paid for. The amount of money that groom's parents give is their choice.


Gifts for the Groomsmen

A lot of brides and grooms show their gratitude to the wedding guests by gifting gifts on at the time of the wedding or just before the weekend celebrations begin. The family of the groom is responsible to pay for any gift the groomsmen receive.


Groom's Attire & Accessories

For weddings, the groom and his groomsmen traditionally pay for tuxedos or suits. In the modern day, for many couples this responsibility is rotated among those who serve as groomsmen.


Reception Transportation

The groom's family is responsible for providing the transportation to and from the wedding reception, whatever form it may take.


Reception Entertainment & Alcohol

What other expenses do the groom’s parents contribute? Most of the time, entertainment for weddings is the groom's parents' obligation. This entertainment package includes live music or DJ as well as any other entertainment such as a wedding photo booth.

Sometimes, the groom's relatives will provide a contribution to the cost of drinks during the wedding reception. Based on the data taken from the Real Wedding Study, couples were able to spend an average of $2,300 on alcohol during their wedding. Therefore, any financial assistance that the groom's family members can offer can greatly reduce the cost of receptions.



Nowadays, many couples save money to spend their honeymoon together, or request wedding attendees to cover specific elements as a gift. It is usually the groom's or his family's duty to pay for the total costs of the honeymoon, from hotels to flights to excursions.


3 Tips for Talking to Both Parents About Their Financial Obligations

Parents can be difficult to talk to about their financial obligations. They may be too busy, too stressed, or just not interested in discussing the topic. Here are a few tips for how to talk to them about the topic.


1) Keep it simple and specific:

When it comes to your wedding day, a little openness can go a long way. it's important to be open and honest when asking for support from parents or in-laws. Come to the conversation prepared with a list of ways you feel they could best contribute, and be open to discussion. It'll show that you were serious about your discussion. By being clear, there's much less room for misunderstanding.

2) Be mindful of your tone:

When talking with parents, it's important to keep your tone lighthearted and friendly. This will ensure that parents feel comfortable talking about their financial obligations and help them to relax.

3) Focus on the positive:

It can be hard to talk about money, but it's important to focus on the positive. Instead of dwelling on the negative and how much they owe, try focusing on how they're going to pay off their debt or what other benefits they're going to experience.

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